Dear Mindy, I saw the episode on ID. You said, "I'm about ready to forgive him," or similar words. Just my opinion--Why would you want to do that? Are you being pressured by well-meaning people who say all Christians must forgive everyone of everything? The Bible doesn't teach that. Don't hurt yourself worse by extending false forgiveness. You're under no obligation to forgive that man, ever. Only if he comes to you and asks you to forgive him--*then* you might consider it. Until ...
Forgiveness: You Asked, I Answered
You Are My Intention
My connections and writing have been paralyzed. I've been self-protecting believing, if I don't expose myself to critics they will have no ammunition or insight into my heart. But I'm undressing now and exposing a bit of what I've been experiencing SO THAT... we can get to the heart of the matter and that is YOU AND ME. I had to learn that I can practice yoga and Jesus loves me (I think Jesus and Gandhi would’ve been great friends). I can curse and pray. I can advocate ...
The Trouble Is, You Think You Have Time: Bethany’s Story
"The trouble is you think you have time" Most people think this quote is from the wise peacemaker, Budha but it actually was written by Jack Kornfield. He tells us that time is fleeting and what we do with it is critical. How would Bethany know that day would be the last time she'd ever receive a lunch invitation from her beloved father. "My parents neighbor was calling me- I knew something must be really wrong." I know many women who have suffered loss one way or another; death, ...
Early Sunset- Earl Grey Cocktail with Hendricks Gin
A couple of months ago before it reached 100 degrees in the Valley, I went to Starbucks and ordered a London Fog made with Almond milk and one pump of sugar free vanilla. Then I got on a Earl Grey tea kick and now that it's hot, I wondered how I could make it into a cocktail. Lucky for me, many people already beat me to the punch. So I came up with an Early Sunset- Earl Grey Cocktail with Hendricks Gin. I found many recipes made with lavender and although it made my taste buds stand at ...
Cutting Family Ties When It’s Toxic
Dear Mindy, It seems quite common to me that when there is a death in the family, a lot of anger, resentment, and hurt transpires among family members. In my family, it seems to never end. I understand that everyone grieves differently, and in most cases we grieve the loss of someone very close to us pretty much forever. As I grew older after I lost my Mother under very tragic circumstances as a child, I felt as if I were living in a constant death museum. My family could never speak of her ...
Ex-etiquette Gift Guide When Co-parenting
Dear Mindy I have been with my girlfriend now for 5 months. We are planning on marrying next summer. However I do have an area in our relationship that I am not comfortable with and need advice on how to handle it. She was previously married and has 2 boys with her ex. Every year for Mother’s Day, birthday, Christmas etc her ex buys her gifts for the boys and she does the same on her days. I have asked her to stop this and I will ensure the boys have gifts for their dad and ask that his ...