One day the girls and I were shopping for a gift at a Christian bookstore and an elderly woman struck up a conversation. We chatted for a bit and talked about the girls and I swear God was speaking through her. She said,
“Your oldest is your mercy and the youngest is your grace.”
Today I want to talk about my Mercy…Madison Leigh. She was born on the U.S.M.C birthday on a Marine Corps base: I wasn’t ready, I wasn’t sure, and I don’t think I was happy in my current situation. Everything about the pregnancy and birth was difficult but my time with her has been more than easy. In all of God’s glory I still to this day am not sure why He blessed me with her.
I receive so many compliments about her but in the rare times I took credit, God shut down my ego, Why?
Because I am not mama of the year or even a lifetime.
I have failed more times than I can remember: in my anger, my lack of patience, my dictatorship ways, and some poor choices. So how on earth can I take credit for having an amazing daughter when it is only my King who created, designed, and kept her?
I think every mother asks themselves am I an okay mom? Am I doing this right? There is so much I don’t know but from my experience this is what I’m sure of-
- Pray for them. My one prayer that’s been constant for Madi is,
“ Dear God, above all else, may she always have a heart for you.”
She isn’t athletic, doesn’t make the best grades, and is a bit lazy but by God she has a good heart! We even, playfully, sometimes say, “ you’re such a good person” when she is failing miserably at something else and yes there is a bit of sarcasm in thatJ
- Be honest with them! What are you afraid of them knowing? One of the things I cherished most about my mom was her transparency and Madi feels the same way. Obviously reveal things at age appropriate times and we are responsible for protecting their mind and heart with appropriate convo. If you’re not ready to share something with them, remember, withholding doesn’t mean lying.
**There was a point in my life I realized if there’s something I’m doing that I wouldn’t want my child to know of than maybe it’s not something I need to be doing.
- Discipline hard and love harder!!! I know everyone is different but I cherish affection and words of affirmation. Children want love more than anything so it’s important to think about how we show that. But, when it’s time to lay down the law and check things at the door, do it! You catch my drift?
My girl is nearly 18 and my prayer has shifted. Soon I’ll talk about praying for your teen girl and her future. Next time we’ll talk about my Grace (Ivy), totally different spirit yet she pulls on my heart strings the same.