Have you ever heard of Attribution Bias? No? Me either....until recently, and I found out that every single human experiences it nearly every day. I'll explain what Attribution Bias is, as well as, why you should know about it. About a year or so ago, my friend Holli brought her kids over for a Sunday swim and mimosas. We wanted to get to know each other better so we dived into deep conversation such as; church, eating disorders, recovery, and of course the story of my mom. She wasn't ...
Take This Survey: What We Think About Violent Sex Crime
I was sitting in the conference room of the Lacey Police Department. It had been 17 years since I'd been there and since she died. Then, I was clouded by grief and overwhelmed by what I had to do. All these years later, my eyes opened to the stacks of folders that held scary truths of victim after victim after victim. They were not like my Mom, she was different until I realized something mind blowing. Below is a survey. A survey of questions that I had to ask myself while I delved into ...
Verity, A Romance Thriller. Nothing Else Will Matter While You’re Reading It.
Love, suspicion, infatuation, sex, murder, and confusion are just some of the themes that will carry you from the beginning to the end of the best Romance Thriller you'll read in this decade. Your favorite show will not matter and neither will the rest of your personal life. Buy the book, handle your non-negotiables, and READ it!!! I've never read a book in the amount of time that I completed Verity. In less than 36 hours I opened the cover and closed the back. The first page hooked me with ...
Do You Know What Rape Is? What It Was and Still Is
Do you know what rape is? What it was and what it still is? The oppression of women is ancient right? Maybe as a societal whole but not entirely. There are many historical practices and customs that have trained men to believe a woman is inferior to a man. One way we still see this is in sexual advances in common places like the work place or even during a date. A man mistakes a woman’s kindness or demeanor for something more and of course if a woman goes out on a date with him, it’s a sure ...
Disclaimer: What You Need to Know to Stay Engaged.
The Scope of this blog is growing into controversial and triggering conversations. Discussions with women, and occasionally men, about assault, rape, vulnerability, self worth, loss/grief, forgiveness, and dialogue of differing opinions. Also, you’ll see information and fact-findings as I write. This has to happen because as my book develops, the content isn’t pretty or easy to digest. It is a deep look into a story that I believe looks a lot like millions of other ...
Makidada, Inseparable Bond
Me and you, us never part. Me and you, us have one heart. Aint no ocean, aint no sea. Keep my sister away from me. The Color Purple The Color Purple is an iconic movie with multiple themes including sisterhood. Two of the main characters, Celie and Nettie are sisters who share an inseparable bond. Celie acts like a mother to Nettie protecting her from abuse and choosing to take the awful place of what Nettie’s life could be. There is a scene where Nettie ...